08 1 / 2014

[Ryan Leslie - Joan of Arc]

07 1 / 2014

When I was in the 4th grade, there was this kid named Matt who had a pager. I wanted a pager so fucking bad. I might have a fully functional smart phone but you know what I want? An archaic receive-only message reading machine. 

When I was in the 4th grade, there was this kid named Matt who had a pager. I wanted a pager so fucking bad. I might have a fully functional smart phone but you know what I want? An archaic receive-only message reading machine. 

07 1 / 2014

social-darwin-awards:

chakrabot:

jamietheignorantamerican:

[x]

I was reading this aloud and started SCREAMING WHEN I GOT TO TH END NO IT IS NOT THE SAME DID YOU JUST COMPARE LOOKING SCRUFFY TO BEING BLACK????

just shut up I know you think that you’re proving an enlightening point but you are only enforcing exactly the kind of mindset that keeps that man from showing up at his daughter’s school.

The clothes you wear and your haircut are simply not the same as your skin color. People will look down on you for any of those. But you can change your clothes and your haircut. You can never change your genes. Your clothes and your haircut aren’t who you are. Being Black should not be the same as looking unprofessional. Not ever.

(via ilovejeopardy)

07 1 / 2014

I once, IRL, unfriended someone because of some small squabble that we got into. I’m almost too embarrassed to say what the squabble was about—I think I just like using the word squabble—but the fact is that it was hardly a good reason to cut him out of my life especially after having experiences with people that are truly, truly unforgivable. It’s like when people say “Oh boy, it smells like someone died in here!” I have a friend who used to work in the funeral/dead bodies business and he told me that after smelling actual dead bodies, he never uses that saying. 

Anyways, we kinda got back in touch because we have mutual friends but I had never taken the time to fully apologize for my part in things. So I asked him to meet for lunch the other day and apologized flat-out. No excuses, it was my fault and though I had my reasons back then, they weren’t good enough reasons. This guy, being a person of integrity, said that he was also responsible for our shared squabble and we agreed to move on. It felt nice. 

06 1 / 2014

I imagine that this is kind of how the relationship in A Teacher started. You can teach ethics up and down to those that want to teach, counsel, heal and yet stuff like this still happens all the time. I remember reading a survey they did with psychiatrists, therapists and such and to the statement “It is wrong to have a sexual relationship with a client” about 5-10% disagreed. Crazy. 

06 1 / 2014

Number 3 in the “Top 5 Korean meals”

Number 3 in the “Top 5 Korean meals”

06 1 / 2014

A long time ago (well, long in internet years) I had a mildly popular blog that led to some nice friends that I still talk to to this day. This was a genre-specific blog and completely unrelated to relationships but when my then girlfriend and I broke up, for some reason I deleted the entire goddamn blog. It is one of my biggest regrets. I’m not sure why I deleted it since it had nothing to do with the relationship, I think I just wanted to dive into an internet hole for a little while. Well, with the most recent break-up, I am determined to not delete this Tumblr. I very much doubt that my most recent ex-girlfriend reads this anymore (and if you do, please stop) but in any case, I have invested too much mental energy into this little Tumblr to throw it all under the rug. With my next relationship (whenever that might be) remind me to not share my semi-anonymous online ramblings with that person.  

06 1 / 2014

[Shameless - Love & Relationships, Winter 2014]
Your very own SpoonyO is in this very issue! Subscribe to Shameless here. 

[Shameless - Love & Relationships, Winter 2014]

Your very own SpoonyO is in this very issue! Subscribe to Shameless here

02 1 / 2014

Mom: What’s with all these tissues, were you crying? 
Me: Yea, I was. 
Mom: You’re a man and you were crying…
Me: That’s a bad thing to say, stop it. 

01 1 / 2014